Tough love Tuesday: It IS your fault.
Whether you succeed or fail, take responsibility.
When someone tells you “it is not your fault”, they probably mean well, but they are disempowering you.
Yes, there are always extenuating circumstances that will make things easier or more difficult.
How you react to those extenuating circumstances, though, is up to you.
Do you give up and throw in the towel or do you dig in and push through?
Yes, there are times when giving up is justified, but it is your decision. Yours alone. Even if you asked for someone else’s opinion or guidance.
We have a bias toward giving ourselves a sexy excuse for failing. We procrastinate so we can say “I would have done better if I would have started sooner and spent more time on it”. Even if we do okay we can still say we would have done better had we tried harder.
We also have subconscious programming to deal with. As much as we may want something, if we may place roadblocks in our way or self-sabotage if what we want is not in alignment with what we value or believe. This often shows up in our finances if we want more money but have beliefs that wealthy people are evil, greedy, or unhappy.
As if that was not enough, we also need to consider the unwritten, possibly even unspoken, agreements we have in our relationships. Many times we try to keep the status quo so relationships stay as they were when we first entered into them. This is true of family, friends, and romantic partners. Often these people will unconsciously undermine us when we try to change things in order to keep us with them. If we change too much they fear they will lose us. This sometimes happens. We all have people from our past who we remember fondly, but drifted apart from, whether they outgrew us or we outgrew them.
Here is the thing:
Wherever we are in our financial journeys, we have the power to change our situation. It does not matter our sex, upbringing, where we live, who our parents were, our family demographic, or anything else. We can find at least one other person in this world of 7.75 billion people who has come from circumstances similar to ours (or worse!) and succeeded.
If you need a little help getting to your destination, find the support and education you need to accomplish your goals. If you need help learning about money, finances, investing, or money mindset, find someone to learn from, whether me or another financial educator. DM me to see if I can help you stack the odds in your favor.